Thursday, January 5, 2017

Befriend the Monsters of Self Doubt

Have you heard them? They creep in when you least expect it and take residence in your head. At first they whisper, telling you that other people are smarter and more accomplished than you. They grow louder as you look at social media reminding you that you're not unique. They like to tell you stories about how everyone has it figured out and your life is a mess.

You can't see them, but you can feel their presence. They feast on fear and insecurity. They influence your mind and lead you to believe the people around you are your competition. They convince you that the only way to survive is to flee (give up) or fight (defend or put-down). These are the Monsters of Self-Doubt.

A couple of nights ago, I caught a couple. They found a guest room within me. I was feeding them with screen-fulls of posts, videos, pictures… and they were loving life. I, however, was exhausted from their visit.

It dawned on me that I let them in and catered to their every beck and call. I chose what was in my feed and inbox. I chose the frequency I viewed updates and I chose how I processed the information I saw and heard. So I decided that's it. THAT'S IT. The monsters had to go. I told them their stay was over. Their room is being demolished and I'm renovating from the inside out.

My first notice of eviction was to starve those SOBs. Groom my feed to be more enjoyable, inspirational and less self-defeating. Create a list of those to check in on, but not follow consistently. Then adjust my behavior to use my downtime for more productive, relaxing or life giving activities such as deep breathing, reading, gentle movements… you get the idea.

I knew that starving them wouldn't be enough. Tending to the needs of my mind, body and spirit creates an undesirable home for those pesky monsters. With attention to what grounds me and asserts my innate goodness, I have found a little goes a long way. An intentional morning ritual creates a mindset that is supportive of me and my interaction with the world. The activities and length of time may vary, but the attention to balancing my whole being is consistent.

I’m convinced these monsters don't have control. Our strength lies in our whole being self-care practices. [Tweet This] By incorporating conscious attention to the present moment, without judgement or attachment, we catch them before they drive our actions, narratives, and relationships. Befriending the Monsters of Self-Doubt leads us to empathy, compassion, and forgiveness. [Tweet This]

What feeds your Monsters of Self-Doubt?
Do you need to make some changes to starve them?
What do you do to balance your being?
Having played with your own monsters of self-doubt, how can you express compassion for others?

Here's an intention to support... I am balanced in mind, body, and spirit.